More Unfinished Buiness

I’ll begin his week’s post by introducing the treehouse image that I selected for it. This image will be used for the posts that update the status of my Writing House. This is the picture that came into my mind when I originally came up with the concept. I’m so glad that I found it for my blog. This clipart is free to use on public domain, but they ask to have a link back to their page. Here is the link. Treehouse Clip Art. I appreciate the sites out there that have clip art that you can just use. In return, I don’t mind giving credit where credit is due.

How did you like my book review last week?  I really enjoyed reading the book and writing the review. It was great to get some different material on my blog. It also provided a great opportunity to do research on what other authors in my genre are writing about and how they do it. I really like John Grisham’s writing in his adult novels, so reading his middle grade book for my first review was a bonus. I’m working on other middle grade and children’s book reviews for my blog, so keep an eye out for them on future Mondays.

We all have unfinished business and projects in our worlds. Projects we started and are just waiting to be finished. Sometimes we just can’t complete them when we start them. With out a firm set of directions, the path they are supposed to be on may take some time to reveal. Sometimes it isn’t about a lack of direction for the project, it may be just a lack of time or money that is holding our projects back.

Let’s see what is going on with projects in my Writing House.

> I continue to post blogs every Monday for the Monday Morning Blogs. Keeping up with that has kept me in the writing game over the summer while Sam and I are running our two kids to their travelling baseball games.

> I recently moved my blogspot posts over to my WordPress blog. I did it in response to a reference I made to one of those posts. I wanted to link those two posts together. After I moved and settled them in with my more recent posts, I came across six post drafts that I never finished. Most of them were part of a story I was creating and posting segments of each week. When I discovered draft posts it hit me, I have some unfinished business to deal with.

My plan is to check out what I posted so far. It might have a good base for a short story to write and submit. Or, I may need to continue to take it on the path it started on, since sections of it were published on the previous blog and the story may need to be completed for the reader.

> I’ve been reading and reviewing other middle grade and children’s books to get reviews done and put into the review format ahead of time. I am trying to make time for the big project in the house, editing The Hard Way.

I’ve been a little anxious about working on those edits for some reason.I want to work on them, but feel I’m not ready with the right type of time and energy to work on them. Do I feel this way because of the busy day to day life, or am I  procrastinating?

As I sat on the deck drinking chai yesterday morning, I thought about this very question. Working on those edits will be a big step forward for me and that project. My editor and I have to take our time and getting this book done right. It will be the foundation for the next two novels in my planned trilogy. The advice I have received from other authors is to just get started and take it in small bites. That way I won’t feel so overwhelmed and can start getting it done.

I think I will wait until the summer travelling baseball season is over. Then I will have more time available and maybe not feel so pressed. It is only two more weeks, so not too far off from now. I am afraid if I wait, something else will pop up that needs to be done and the writing gets pushed off again, to remain as another item on my unfinished business list.  My writing has been overrun by many things many times in my life. I need to accept that I’m not going to be able to control these things that come up in my life. I keep stressing myself out with trying to fix it and I may just have to find the patience to wait and the faith to know it will happen.

There is a time in life for everything. Just like my other writing ideas, it may not be their time yet.The perfectionist in me has to let go and be o.k. with just doing my best. My best is pretty good and it seems to be getting many things done so far. I need to take the advice of other authors. Just need to start working on those edits little by little. Have faith that it will get done and my goal to publish will come true. It just may take a little longer than planned. I guess that’s what they call being realistic.

Writing Prompt #4

Back at it again. I decided to pick another prompt from the book 642 Things to Write About. Here is the one for this week.

Write an anonymous letter to a stranger detailing the things you have you’ve learned about life.

To Whom It May Concern,

My name is Selma and I have been on this earth for almost forty eight years now. When I received your question about what I’ve learned about in life, I thought about the many things I have confronted and observed in my life so far. There are many simple lessons learned, but here are a few of the bigger ones and my thoughts about them.

My right is not necessarily someone else’s.

We all place judgement on what we see. To me the color may be blue, to you it may be teal. We do the same thing with people, even though we don’t think we do. We see things through our own life colored glasses. The how and why we do something is based on historical knowledge and present facts. I’m the type of person who grew up always doing the right thing. I think I did it to impress people, but also so I wouldn’t get into trouble. From that angle, I think I learned that the right thing is always right. Other people have gotten to the same place I am on a different road. What was right for them may not have been right for me. And that is o.k.

Teenagers are going to make bad decisions.

As much as we want to direct them to do the right thing (or what we might have done), they are going to make bad decisions. Decisions are made from life experience. Most teenagers haven’t done much living to have a base to make their decisions from.We can all look back on our lives and see things that we could have done better or smarter. Sometimes when these things are done, we don’t have the life experience that we need at the time to make the best decision. Teenagers aren’t necessarily the only ones who suffer from that problem.

Accept and appreciate each other’s differences and what they have to contribute.

This is one is really showing itself in how we relate to people today.  I struggle with what slavery did to the black and poor endured servants. Even though we may have different colored skin or more money, doesn’t mean that anyone is better than anyone else. I see that the blacks in American experienced what most people shouldn’t be put through. Most of them were brought here as slaves and treated badly by many white slave holders. I think this has created a feeling of retribution and anger that we still feel today.

I wish that we could start talking and listening to each other more. Hear what bothers us and others and see what we can do to fix it. Instead, people are reacting to and perpetuating this anger. For example, when it seems that someone is killed just because they were  black, and not because they did something to be shot, the anger is only seeing one side of what happened. Or, innocent families are being killed because of this anger and the killer just wants to make them pay because they happen to be the other color. Not everyone feels this way. There seems to be a minority from both sides perpetuating this negative view of the other group out of anger and retribution. By talking and listening, I think we can try and make this better.

People can be mean.

What people say to one another can be hurtful. Kids and teenagers do this to each other all of the time, since they don’t have the nuances on how to say something yet or they think it sounds cool. There’s even a movie called Mean Girls that shows how this phenomena has been happening in schools. I was teased in high school and even shunned by my friends because they decided that they didn’t want to be around me. They judged me to be a lesbian, even though I wasn’t. They carved the word “IT” into my band locker door so that they could show the world what they thought of me. Were they trying to be funny? Maybe in some ways, since they didn’t know how this would eventually affect me. It happened during my senior year and forced me to find new friends to hang out with just before graduation. It changed the whole way that I thought my high school career would end. On a sad note. They came back to me a year later and wanted to hang out. I didn’t do it, I couldn’t figure out why they would want to. Guilt I’m sure. This is the same kind of story that goes on in kids lives everyday, and in some cases have led them to commit suicide. I still deal with abandonment and trust issues to this day because of what they did. It made a major impact on me and the way that I am today.

All of these lessons have something to do with how people are and treat others. I’m the kind of person who has gotten hurt by people by being too nice, not setting enough boundaries, and giving too much benefit of the doubt. I’ve kept the hurt to myself so that I don’t make others feel bad and out of fear that they will walk away from me, like my friends in high school. I don’t think that I would change the way that I am, but I wish that people would be able to communicate with each other, find out what is wrong and try to fix it. Don’t be mean just to prove that you can. And don’t be afraid to ask for help when you aren’t sure what to do.

We all walk on different paths in life. The choices that we make and the things that we do are determined by our experience. We can make changes to make our experience either better or different. Don’t be afraid to do it if it can make things better.

Hope that this letter helped to answer your questions. Please let me know if you have any additional questions.

Have a great day,

Selma